That's what I would rather get than spend Thanksgiving with Chris' family.
Firstly, they are all in my yard every freaking Sunday of life because Chris' mom lives in our garage that's been converted into a house for her. So it isn't as though I never see them and Thanksgiving will be a big holly jolly reunion.
Secondly, I love them in that they are my brothers and sisters in the Circle of Life sense, but I don't actually like but perhaps 2 out of 49. And yes, there are 49 of them! That isn't hyperbole.
Thirdly, my idea of a jolly holiday is doing what I want to do, not what I have to do.
Fourthly, Chris is still in Europe and will not even be here on Thanksgiving. I would much rather go to my parents' house, watch the Macy's parade while helping mom in the kitchen, help mom put up her Christmas tree (our hallowed tradition, after the kitchen is clean), then come home and kick back and laugh with the kids. Oh, and notice it's all about mom? Daddy hates holidays because he has OCD and holidays mess with his routine. I have OCD too, but I take medicine for it, which is something he does not do, but I digress...
Last year Chris said that he would no longer participate in holidays with his family, because they were an experiment in terror. I'm behind him 100 percent. How can we tactfully do this, though? I'm thinking that the best out would be to tell at least part of the truth. That we just really want to spend the holidays hanging out at home. Of course they will get mad and say ugly things about us, but I'm pretty sure I can live with that.
So, is blood thicker than personal need? I think not.
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tell them that the stomach flu is going around and the children might have been exposed, your still waiting to see if they get it! then they will be afraid to even come in your house. hahaha
I say stay home. Tell them all you want to start your own family traditions with just your immediate family. Maybe you can compromise and get together with them for just some of the holidays.
Make them a pie, say you are sorry to miss all the fun, but your mother needs help with the meal this year and you are going there.
I have some really bad thanksgiving memories, and I really abhor the day. But I am in this new house, and my children are coming, so I have decided to try it once more. If I hate it after this feast, I will just not participate. I always did like steak better than turkey anyway.
Do what you like. If they would call you names for such as this, they will call you names for something else, so just do what you want to do, and don't worry.
I envy you so much!!! :(
You are worried about being tactful to "an experiment in terror"--- isn't that a definitive example of irony? Oh Law! How many turkeys will it take to feed 49(!) folks?????? Just go ahead and tell 'em that being around Chris' fambly without him makes you want to cry, and they will assume it is because you miss him soooo much... hee hee hee Go to mama's and eat PIE!!!!
LOLZ
We are going to our friends for Thanksgiving this year and I admit I am sooo glad to be doing so rather then spend it with Michael's family (way too much drama on that side right now.)
As for tactful... not something I am genetically predisposed to, I just haven't returned their rsvp...
OMG so much has happened since I last was able to log in and read-- Happy Birthday, congrats to Huck on his grammar test, Congrats on your new job, sorry your missing hubby and Happy Thanksgiving!
I say, just 'cuz they're family, doesn't mean you are obligated. Tell them thanks, but you've already accepted another invite. They don't need to know it's with your own family/mom. (I suppose this bit of advice is a bit belated, seeing that today is the day.)
I'm not sure what the deal is, but whenever I click on the link to your blog, it tells me I'm not invited and won't accept my login. I finally found the e-mail you sent me for an invite, which said the invite was now expired, but when I clicked on the link in that email, it let me in. Weirdness. So that's why I'm so far behind on your life! I haven't been ignoring you, I swear!
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